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Monday, August 23, 2010


 NOTE: Kindly heed that this piece was written quite a while back and hence the traces of immaturity hinted at certain places should be overlooked. I post this 'cause I still hold the same opinion of the topic hereby discussed, though I now see it in a more practical light. Read on!

 Ever noticed the amusing coincidence that the words Monogamy and Monotony not only rhyme but are also co-related? Now, the hardcore believers of monogamy, comprising almost 90% of the Indian society, would fiercely disagree with me. But I am of the opinion that it is physically and mentally impossible for any human to never feel the intense urge to break free from the trappings of 'holy matrimony' or to never be attracted to any person other than their spouse, hence failing the very purpose of the institution. And if at all some people do seem to prove me wrong it is solely because they are a master of disguise, disguising his/her true emotions.
 However, do not misunderstand me to be a supporter of Bigamy or Polygamy. I simply do not believe in the hypocritic institution of marriage where two individuals take mandatory 'oaths' of sensing and fulfilling each other's needs and loving each other till death does them part.and seldom practicing any of it. As time passes their marriage turns into a life-term sentence and the promises they made to each other become obligations they are forced to fulfill.
 Osho says, love is like a bird and marriage is a golden cage for the bird. However priceless the cage might be, nothing is more precious to the bird than its freedom. I often wonder as to what is the point of entering into the so-called 'sacred union of two individuals'. With the passage of time it remains anything but 'sacred' and the significance of 'union of two individuals' eventually changes from emotional to monetary in terms of a joint bank account or the likes.

 The saddest fact about marriage is that either of the spouses, the woman in most(read all) cases, compromise on their individuality and lose their identity in a bid to ensure the best for the family. In this respect, the arrangement of co-habitation is better where either of the partners need not have a sense of obligation towards the other, while retaining a sense of responsibility for their individual and collective actions, albeit with the new legislations ensuring security to both partners in such a relation.
 This is my opinion and most certainly would not, and need not, be digested by the dedicated advocates of this 'holy institution'.  But then again, it's all a matter of individuals perceptions. I conclude here wishing a 'happy married life', a paradox in itself,  to those already hitched and all the good luck in life to those planning to 'tie the knot'! 

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